"Who are you?" ... Such a daunting question; yet we place so much emphasis on these words, as to convey that our success in life is contingent upon the question being answered as early as humanly possible. Over time we come to carve out and discover who we are through the many experiences we have throughout the course of our lives, but I've come to realize that much of me finding out who I really am is rooted in my understanding of who I'm not.
Yes, it is important to know your capabilities, your strengths, and your personality. Important is actually an understatement, I truly believe identity is everything. But a huge portion of self-discovery is also made-up of us knowing our limitations, our personal preferences, and who we aspire NOT to be. On one end of the spectrum we uncover the mark which we aim to hit, and on the other end we're able to set boundaries to ensure that if we ever venture outside of the personal preferences we set for ourselves and/or our lifestyle, a mental alarm will sound and we'll know we're getting too far off the mark and need to refocus the vision we have for ourselves.
... a huge portion of self-discovery is also made-up of us knowing our limitations, our personal preferences, and who we aspire NOT to be.
I know I aim to be a stern yet compassionate leader. I know I aim to be honest and open in all of my relationships, and for them to be lead by clear communication and reciprocity of gratitude and kindness. I know I aim to cover those I care about most, and to always add more value to my inner circle than I take away from it. In my knowing of these things, I also know I won't allow myself to be a pushover. I won't allow myself to become so exhausted by day to day struggles that I treat people around me poorly. I know I don't want to be the kind of leader people feel the need to tip-toe around, or the kind of leader people think is full of pride and arrogance. I know I don't want to be someone who makes people feel small or belittled.
While there is power in my "yes", there is also extraordinary power in my "no" ...
While there is power in my "yes", there is also extraordinary power in my "no". I say no to arrogance and secrecy, which helps guide me toward compassionate and transparent leadership. My "no" helps to guide my vision, keeping me from straying away from who I truly want to be. While my "yes" puts power behind my arrow, making it more of a straight shot toward my desired destiny (or in other words, my target).
Know who you are. Embrace who you are. Empower who you are. But never forget the person you don't want to be.